Because, if you don't, like these delicate forest-flora, the season will pass. Had I not stopped to take the photo at that exact moment, I'd have lost the chance to capture it. Two days later, the petals were already falling away. A day after that...there was no trace the flowers had ever existed at all. We do that with love connections, too.
Something unexpected blooms and grows in our heart and it's beautiful. Truly beautiful. But we may fail to fully recognize the moment. Perhaps we get scared. Skittish. Petty. We let the past dictate our future by allowing it to control our present. Then, months go by. And, outside of our hearts, there's no visible trace left of the love that was so beautiful, so pure, without the light of the two souls who created it, it retreats back to the Earth waiting for that soul-light to return again.
Your feelings come from your intuition. Your gut. That's why you feel them. But we're so willing to deny our intuition that we act on our fears instead, often mistaking that very fear for instinct when nothing could be further from the truth.
Love is ALL that matters in this world. Money, too, of course, but that's not as hard to come by, believe it or not....
True love is a once-in-a lifetime shot. You'll find lots of people to care about and, in time, can learn to love them...if that's what you want. But the kind of love that hits you at the soul is rare. So rare, I've only experienced it once.
We always think to ourselves, "One day...." But I'm here to tell you that "one day" is NOW. Tell the person who sees you as their ultimate wish fulfillment that they're yours, too.
You'll never regret trying for what you really want. I'd rather fail spectacularly at true love than be sitting in the same place doing the same thing in ten years--wishing, hoping and praying for a change that I let slip by. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. And yes, we're in a pandemic and it's going to be a while before you may be able to physically get together. But you can't let what is a totally temporary situation deter you from a lifetime of happiness. If you were honest with yourself, you might see that's what got you in this mess in the first place.
Let's say you send out your olive branch and hear nothing back. Again, I've been there. If that happens, you don't have to get angry. It's disappointing, yes, but if you feel love for someone, hold on to that part. The love. The good things. Their smile. Whatever makes your heart feel lighter. And, be patient. Maybe your person isn't quite ready yet. You never know. You could hear back in a week or a month. I didn't hear from someone I cared about for nearly two months. And when I did hear, I had the sense his jealousy may prevent him from moving forward. But then, much to my surprise, he showed up again. And it was pure magic.
I want each of you to have magic in your life, too. Not the kind of magic you'll find in a Harry Potter novel. The kind of magic that springs from the heart.
Sometimes, all it takes to be happy is a shift in perspective. It's a lot easier to pick up the phone when we change our minds to match our hearts. Or, if you prefer, press the "send" button on the draft you've been saving. You know the one...it goes something like this:
"When I think of you, I see a big ball of bright light. But, fear can creep in--old hurts, resentments. And, I'm sorry for that. Because, the only thing that matters is you. You are my light. The first night we were together, I thought you looked like an angel. I fell for you right then and there. But I didn't think you felt the same. Yet, to my great surprise, you came back again.
I don't know what happened in between but it doesn't matter. All that matters is you. I can't explain it. I just know that my heart feels happiest when you're in it. And, If you let me, I'll do whatever it takes to make you happy for as long as I live."
When it comes to true love, it's never too late....
*photo copyright Rebecca Housel 2020; "Bloodroot"