Category: #TwinFlames

#Stay

6/17/2021

When will I learn?
Being immortal is like this:
You lose some
And then you lose some more
An eternity of loss
Held together by fleeting moments of joy
Emphasis on "fleeting"

Is it enough?
No, it never is
Good enough isn't really good enough
Maybe no one gets a happy ending
They just get to end
Everybody seems to want to live forever
But I've never understood why....

There is a futility to human happiness
It doesn't last
Pain does though
Hurt is dependable
You can count on it
It can count on you, too
So. Much. Hardship.

Love may be just another fairytale
The reality is more toxic
Plan B fails
So you have to take another pill
To bleed
To heal
To feel

My tears are as infinite as I am
Not as portrayed by my fellow Dorchestarian
It's more complex
Nuanced
Like a delicate spider's web
You catch more flies with honey
Unless you have eight legs

Spiders are the Weavers of Destiny
Even mine
Fate is something we wait for
But Destiny, ah, now that is a choice
And it appears I chose wrong...yet again
And again
And, again

Like I said, I'm infinite
No beginning
No end
And apparently, so are my choices
Good and bad
For better or worse
In sickness and in health

We are poorer for our riches
Cosmic and Karmic.
Loving and Lovely.
The Sun sets in the blink of an eye
Even when taking the road less travelled by
Hopefully, all is not yet lost
For, this time, it is too steep a cost.

#Stay

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Why Heartbreak Can Be a Good Thing

6/16/2021

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Heartbreak. It's never fun. And while pain is part of the human equation, we usually hope for the best in matters of love. Unfortunately, hope isn't always enough.

The silver lining? Heartbreak can teach us valuable lessons about who we are and what we want.

In any relationship, we need to feel valued. A person who values you will not discount you for any reason. But if an individual makes the mistake of taking you for granted, they'll need to prove themselves to move the relationship forward in the future.

Trust may be easy to receive, but it's tough to earn....

Panic can happen. Cold feet can happen. But ultimately, when someone is lukewarm about the love you have to offer, that's something you should know sooner rather than later. It puts the proverbial ball in your court, too. We need to value ourselves or no one else will. Heartbreak can help us choose better. And, by "choose better," I mean, choosing yourself.

When a partner asks you to overextend yourself in any way--to accept risks no one should have to accept--this individual does not have your best interests at heart. That's just the truth. It's a hard truth, I know, but a necessary one.

So, whatever caused the ending that created heartbreak, move forward with grace. It's okay to cry. It's okay to feel sorrow. Know that when you act with integrity, unconditional love will be both your shield and your guide. You can't protect yourself from pain, but you can protect yourself from future pain. Future heartache. And, that's important.

Stable people choose to invest time, energy and resources into developing a high-quality connection. When they see potential in a partner, they won't hesitate to move forward. Confident, secure folks know what they want and as a result, have the courage to go after it.

When someone is feeling confused, however, let them work it out on their own. You can express how their confusion makes you feel. But don't cut them off. Try to be supportive. Being supportive doesn't mean sacrificing yourself or your own needs. Maintain self-respect. Maintain decorum. If things turn around, you can communicate your needs at that time. Together. But if things don't manifest in your favour, let them know you appreciate their honesty and take the high road. Remain friends if you're both amenable--it's what healthy, stable, balanced people would (and should) do.

Heartbreak can teach you to level up in matters of love. Increasing your own stability will decrease toxicity in any future relationship. It doesn't mean toxicity won't evolve, but if you're both stable, you can diffuse any negatives much more quickly and easily.

When it comes to love, confidence is the sexiest thing you can wear. That confidence can and will lead you to a safe, secure commitment with an equal. There's really nothing better.

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#RelationshipRX: How Much is Fear Really Costing You???

1/4/2021

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It's okay to feel pain. Attempting to avoid it is a reactionary response to fear. When we fear pain, we're prone to mistaking possibility for probability--but imaginary pain is a delusion, something we convince ourselves to be real when there's an equal possibility that it's not.

Why would anyone do that?

Survival. We're afraid the pain from (potential) rejection will consume us. We're afraid we may not be able to breathe again if, say, the object of our affection (whether a person, job or purchase) does not meet our expectations. If this sounds like insecurity, it's because it is insecurity. Others reject us (even after accepting us!) because they are insecure, anticipating failure, and by extension, pain--that, in turn, makes us insecure. Sometimes, we're the ones who make a preemptive strike, ghosting a person (or situation) we care about because we're afraid...not always of failure either. Sometimes, we're equally afraid of success.

Yes, fear of success is a real thing. To better understand that, try answering the following questions:

What if you never allowed fear to get in your way?

What would happen if you pursued every dream, every goal, every ambition you ever had?

How much more do you think you would accomplish if you simply went for what you wanted instead of holding back--both personally and professionally?

If you answered the above questions honestly, you can now better understand what fear is costing you. Go ahead--put a dollar value on every hour you've spent avoiding pain. Multiply those hours by that dollar value. What does that add up to each week? Each month? What about each year???

Conservatively, if we said three hours a day (times seven days a week multiplied by 52 weeks), we'd be talking about close to 1,100 hours. Today, high school grads can earn upwards of $27/hour doing remote contact tracing. So, if we assume all those reading this have at least graduated from high school, we can also assume that the minimum dollar equivalent to the minimum hours we spend avoiding pain (through social media, television, movies, gaming, YouTube, etc.) is well over $29,000 a year, which equates to over $2,400 a month, or about $600 a week.

Think you spend less than three hours a day avoiding pain? Okay, even if we were to halve the above figures, it's still the equivalent of $15,000 a year. You can buy a car with that. You can put a down payment on your first home. You can pay off student loans. You can help an underprivileged child complete an Associates degree at a community college and still gift them the remaining $3,000 to help them get a head start in their lives.

Now, imagine what your life would be like if you took the time, energy, effort, and yes, even resources avoiding pain and put ALL of it into going after what you wanted instead...you'd be successful in any area of life where you wanted a win. You'd have to be. Because, you'd go all-in. Going all-in increases your odds of success exponentially. So, when we fail to maintain a relationship or love connection because we're afraid "things won't work out," we're lying to ourselves...and, everyone else.

The Truth Hurts...But We Don't Have To:

Finding out the root of your fear(s) can (and will!) help you to be more effective in ALL areas of your life. Coping strategies, like increased mindfulness through meditation, are tools we can learn to use properly in order to remove would-be obstacles. You just have to be brave enough to first admit to yourself that you need help. Then, have the courage to ask for it....

The older I get, the less I allow fear to get the better of me. It still happens once in a while. But if I had one wish, it would be to get back what equates to decades worth of (apparent) timidity. I never saw myself as timid. But in truth, I let go of more than I can eloquently articulate here because I was too afraid to fight for it. Things that may not have even required much fighting, if any at all. But I imagined excesses of time, effort and all for an eventual negative result just so I could say, "It's not worth it." And, of course, turn my back and walk away, guilt-free. There's no guilt in knowing our limits, but we need to be able to discern the difference between having limits and creating them. That's part of understanding "scarcity mindset." Yes, we who are asked to fight early in life can get tired. That's true, too. But when I take a closer look, I can see my justifications as exactly that--excuses for keeping myself small. Small, and yes, afraid--that's what scarcity mindset is in a nutshell.

Being self-responsible is hard. It's so much more than paying your bills, eating well, and maintaining health, employment and social connections. Taking responsibility for ourselves also means being mindful of how and why we make the choices we make and take the actions we take. Or don't take, as the case may be....

Expressing our feelings is about taking responsibility--for ourselves and others.

Saying, "I love you," has consequences. Stating clear intentions is like that. We learn to avoid clarity, especially in a world that includes social media, to also avoid holding ourselves responsible for what we want. It's easier to blame others for not meeting our needs. We can't be judged for being in the wrong place at the wrong time...unless you put yourself there. Victimhood is actually encouraged by society. Discernment helps with not falling prey to such logical fallacy--or, what may best be described as a rhetorical slight of hand.

We may indeed be victimized by both individuals and society at various points in our lives, but that by no means is indicative of a need to compromise our integrity as well.

Bottom line:

Just because someone has victimized you does not mean you have to remain a victim.

Sexism is real. Racism is real. Hate is real. We can't control how others think, feel or behave. However, we can control how we think, what we feel and any subsequent behaviours thereof. When we forget that, we're self-sabotaging. Self-sabotage means giving up control to fear--usually via a past trauma, like abuse.

Time is the one commodity we can't trade. As linear creatures, we can only ever move in one direction. But that doesn't mean our minds have to stay stuck in the past (as our bodies inevitably move forward). We can release the old in order to create something new. Letting go doesn't mean things have to end--it just means you're willing to allow things to evolve. Change. Grow. And, growth takes time...time, and a great deal of patience.

I can lead you down the rational path toward the well of reason...but it is you (and only you) who can choose to end your thirst for "better" or "more." You have all the tools you need to create the life you want--you just have to have the character, the integrity, and of course, the will to act on both.

No, it's not easy. Yes, it takes tremendous effort. But you are worth it. Your happiness, and the freedom that comes with it, is worthwhile, too.

The Take Away:

In life, there are no real deadlines. You're never too old, or, too young. And, it's never too late. Focus on forward momentum--one day at a time, one step at a time, you'll start to see progress.

If you'd like me to help you remove obstacles from your life, please sign up for a session today:

Hypnotherapy Techniques: Heal the Mind, Heal the Body

I believe in you! But you must believe in yourself in order to make positive, permanent change. Take a chance and be fully present--tell the person you love that you love them. Text the guy or girl you pushed away before the holidays. If you know there is a person on this planet who helps you feel more balanced, happy and healthy, express yourself! It's a brand new year. You have every reason to make the changes you've been putting off. Your path is clear--nothing can hold you down or back anymore. Nothing but you.

Cheers to a happier, healthier and wealthier 2021! Good luck....

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Why Is It So Hard To Say How We Feel?

11/23/2020

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Fear. That's the short answer. But fear is only part of the story....

When we are reactive thanks to fear (ego, pride, anger, sadness, manipulation/the need for control are all derived from fear), we appear to make poor choices. However, appearances can be deceiving.

If you're reaction to any situation is based on your fear(s), you're not in control--past trauma is. Past trauma sticks in the subconscious, feeding our conscious and unconscious mind. Whether awake or asleep, that fear is always there...and the worst part is, you may not even know it.

Being reactive (as opposed to proactive) is a form of self-sabotage. Prioritizing problems over people means you are not in control--your past trauma is.

Fear masquerades as intuition when past trauma is holding the reigns. That's how we sabotage the good things in our lives...why? Because, whatever that past trauma was, part of the damage was communicating that you don't deserve happiness. You don't deserve good things. You're unworthy. But those are all lies. Lies we tell ourselves to stay complacent--avoid change. We get comfortable with pain. We may even like feeling as though we are the victims of an unfair universe. The universe isn't unfair--we are. We're unfair to ourselves. Our true selves. Not who someone else wants us to be.

The big hat-trick of human existence is breaking free from the social box someone built for you long before you were even born. We are only meant to live in a box when we die. Why choose to live in one while you're still breathing???

Fear. Fear is the answer to all the unhappiness you feel. Your fear. Someone else's fear. Take your pick.

So, how do we break free of fear and things like self-sabotage?

Love. It's all about the love. Love, and of course, compassion. For yourself, first and foremost. Then, for others.

Start showing yourself love by admitting what (and who) you really want in your life. Stop beating yourself up for your humanity. And start living the life you really want. Or, don't. You can stay still. Stubborn (which is just another word for "complacent"). Being complacent essentially means you've been beaten into submission. Like a dog under his master's boot. But unlike a dog, you actually have a voice.

Your voice gives you a choice.

Why wait for someone to let you out of your cage when you have opposable thumbs and can do it yourself??? Not in a year. Or, ten years. Do it now. There's never going to be a "right" moment to make change. If you're waiting for a burning bush or a winged man to appear, you'll be waiting forever.

Be responsible for your own life, your own happiness. Stop putting the onus of your decisions (and desires) onto others.

Be brave! If you're reading this, you've been given many, many gifts. Stop squandering them. Stop feeling guilty, too. It's okay to want more than what you have.

"Yes, but...what if???"

Indeed. Let's ask that question:

What if...things work out?

What if...you succeed?

What if...you can actually be happy?

Ah, now we're getting somewhere. Scarcity mindsets keep us limited. We're afraid to leave our comfort zone (or the social boxes pain built for us). It gets harder as we get older, too. We're afraid we can't afford to take risks--in life and in love. But I'd ask you to consider this:

How can you afford not to???

When I die one day, it will be with few regrets. I know that I've had the courage to say how I feel...even if it sometimes took longer than expected to get there, If the person I expressed my feelings to was unable or unwilling to respond, that's their problem. Literally.

I'm a catch. Every day of the week. That's not hubris. I unapologetically know my value. If another person can't see it (or, say it...), then, they can't see their own worth. Feeling worthless is another lie we tell ourselves when we hold on to pain in order to sabotage love (and the healing it will inevitably bring).

Cowardice is a HUGE turn off. But courage...now, that gets my attention. And more importantly, keeps it. A smart person wants my attention. But it takes more than intelligence to understand that attention-seeking behaviour will only get you so far.

You need courage, kindness and self-respect to let go of your fears. Fearlessness equals liberation. Freeing yourself of your ego and pride (your fear) frees you to give and receive love. The real kind.

We're living in a highly uncertain world at the moment. If you can't tell the person you love that you love them now, when can you???

Your fear tells you to stay quiet. Your fear comes from trauma. Trauma comes from betrayal. Or, abuse. Are you really going to let your bully or your abuser or whoever hurt you a long time ago be in control? Or, are you going to take back the reigns and actually start living?

Thanks to free will, the choice is always yours. Fate is what leads us to opportunities meant for us. We may say "yes" at first but feel unsure later. That's okay. What's not okay is completely missing out on the opportunity of a lifetime because we're too afraid to say how we feel.

You can do better...we all can.

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The Woman

8/2/2020

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I wandered around the stone circle, taking pictures of the flora and fauna. I'd been there many times before. In fact, the first time was (unwittingly) on a full moon--ironic, given that the full moon reaches it's peak in just a few minutes. Perhaps Einstein was right when he said there are no coincidences in the physical universe....

I'd met a lovely couple at the circle who told me all about the faery lore in and around the area. I listened patiently, smiling, nodding, but didn't have the heart to explain that I have 15,000 years of human history and culture in my brain, and, in nine languages. They were very nice people and were apparently waiting for me to get back to my car before leaving. I suppose it is still somewhat unusual for women to travel alone. Especially overseas.

The alter stone is the largest stone in the picture (see insert). When you put your hand on it, you can feel it vibrating. At least, I do....

It was a chilly day in October. My body tends to run hot so I wore a light jacket but no gloves. As I wandered around the stone circle, people came and went. Just a few at a time. Most did not see the appeal and quickly disappeared. Except for this one woman. I was on the far end when I felt her presence, turning at just the right moment to see wild gray and white witchy hair flying all around her as she got out of an SUV. She was of Asian descent, like me, but the world is more blended in my DNA, including Northern Africa, the Middle East, and of course, Ireland.

She wore a long skirt and a denim jacket. Other than feeling her when she pulled in, I didn't think much about her, continuing my obsession with photographing the smallest details around the large rocks. I was maybe two stones away from the alter stone when the woman first approached. The adjacent field was full of black and white grazing cows who were so used to people, they barely looked up when a new visitor arrived. But not the woman. She was different somehow. She walked around the outer edge of the circle and stood in front of the cows. In front of me. But I was in the circle and she was outside of it. Looking backwards, she clearly wanted me to see her...perhaps she felt me, too.

As she stood on the outer edge of the circle, the woman with the wild, witchy hair became very still. Very quiet. That's when I saw something I've never seen before:

The cows all looked up at once. At her. Then, they turned and began moving in our direction, crowding against the fenced gate. It was as if the woman's very presence called the cows forward. I began to record the phenomenon with my camera as she walked away; none but a very young calf remained at the gate once the woman moved on. As an Ayurvedic practitioner, I've seen miracles in my lifetime. But this was remarkable. The cows appeared to be mesmerized. The moment the woman turned her gaze elsewhere, most of them seemed to go back to what they were doing before, as if unaware that they'd all just tried to push through the wooden gate that separated us from them.

Unlike other tourists, the woman walked around to the stone circle's secret entrance. That was how I entered as well...no coincidences indeed.

The first time I went to the circle (years ago now), the whole set up felt wrong. No one was supposed to approach from the direction where there is now a road. People would come down from the mountain. Take a boat across the lake. Walk through the golden field. Past the protective hawthorn trees. And, enter through the faery door. They'd gather in the circle for fire festivals like Lughnasadh, which was just yesterday. It begins at sundown on 31 July and goes until the next night, 1 August. I was born on Lughnasadh, conceived on Samhain. And no, I'm not joking.

Truth is always stranger than fiction....

Today, the full moon winks at me through the darkened branches of the pines in my backyard. I forget sometimes that I am full of magic. It's in my very birth. I snuck in through a sliver on Samhain when souls can move freely. That's when the sun-god, Lugh, is said to go underground. The god is born once again on 31 July...like me.

On that cold day last October, I watched the woman lay her body against the alter stone, facing away from me. It was such an unusual moment, that it seemed a portrait of humanity. Of how connected we feel to the past even though our linear nature as physical beings means we may only ever move forward. So I took a picture. Checked the camera. And patiently waited for the woman to stop hugging the stone so I could proceed with recording the glorious minutiae--those unseen details that delight my editorial eye.

I was full of wishes last year as I walked the entire circle multiple times. Even after the woman left, I remained, listening to the trees, "hearing" voices of the past. It finally got so cold I had to leave, under-dressed as I was. It had been many hours and my friend, Pam, was meeting me for dinner at my hotel. But as I passed through the faery door again, it felt as though something bit me. My hand was on a stone for all but a moment. Yet there was bright red blood everywhere.

Patching myself up and driving the hour or so back, I'd almost forgotten about the woman. A young man sitting at the bar saw me as I strolled in, wind-blown and bloodied as I was. He was chatting me up when Pam arrived. As we sat and caught each other up, I suddenly remembered the woman and said, "Oh! I almost forgot about this. Very weird occurrence today while hiking around the stone circle. This woman seemed to mesmerize the cows, then, she hugged the alter stone. I took a picture...it was just so unusual."

But when Pam and I looked through my photos, all that was visible was the alter stone itself. There was no one else there. The woman had been there though--other tourists turned their heads when she walked by. And then, there were the cows....

She wasn't in that footage either. With the cows. I'd filmed it briefly. She was right in front of me, too. I showed Pam the odd scratch on my right ring finger. It was ugly and deep, yet within a few days, the gash was completely healed.

The next night (after my visit to the circle) was the book launch. Pam was with me then, too, as was our mutual friend, Chris. My secret wish at the stone circle came true later that night upon my return--it felt like Fate and Destiny came together to create one perfect moment.

Magic indeed....

Life got very busy after that. But just before I flew across the ocean, I went back to the stone circle. I wanted to see the woman again. I wanted to see what the cows would do. I wanted the stone to "bite" me a second time. And of course, I hoped for that same magic to deliver another fated "surprise." It was the first day of the full moon after all. And, it was absolutely pouring sheets of big splashy raindrops...the kind of weather you expect to find in such places. I waited in my car for it to stop. Waited for the few brave tourists who pulled over to leave. Then, to my great surprise, the same SUV the woman had arrived in last time showed up. Could it be her again?

I saw her wild hair before I saw her. She ran to the circle (and before I'd even made it past the gate), she'd already run back to her car. It was raining so hard and I had no umbrella. I guess I thought I'd have more time. More time...for many things. However, within just a few minutes, I was more drowned rat than human. And away the SUV drove with the woman. No, this lion did not roar that day. Though I managed to stay at the stone circle for hours once again, there were no sharp "bites" from the megalithic stones The cows barely noticed me, except for the one young calf. I sat under a hawthorn tree against the fence, sheltering myself from the rain, feeling safe and hidden beneath the armed branches. As I crossed the threshold of the faery door, I stepped in an unavoidable puddle, my fabric sneakers absolutely soaked through.

When I returned to my hotel, I half-expected to see someone waiting there for me. A young local couple I know was having dinner in my usual booth; they noticed me glancing over and invited me to join them. If I'd been even remotely dry, I'd have accepted their kind invitation. But I needed to shower and change and put my sneakers in the hotel dryer. An hour later, I met one of my soul-family, Sean, for a late dinner. He gave me Moulton Brown and some really beautiful gifts to take home. We laughed and talked until midnight, neither of us wanting to say goodbye. We thought it would be maybe April--six months--until I'd return "home." Thanks to COVID-19, it's been more than six months now....

Tonight, as the winds of change blew through the dark purple leaves of the Crimson King in my garden, the wind-chimes singing in dulcet tones in the background, I thought of the woman that day at the stone circle. The moon is big-bellied once again. And it brings me back to the stone circle--I see it so clearly in my mind's eye, bathed in moonlight, glowing in the utter magic of the mossy megalithic stones.

As usual, I'm in trouble. Yet again. It follows me as regularly as the tides. Frustrated tears form in the corners of my eyes as I think back to last October. So many missed opportunities. And I can't fix any of it...

Have you ever felt that way?

I tell my clients that a sense of over-responsibility comes from being victimized. In other words, a malignant person (probably from our past) was neglectful and abusive. Part of that abuse resulted in a running narrative where everything that is "bad" or "wrong" or a "problem" is our fault. But as independent adults, we are the only ones responsible for our lives, our decisions, our actions, or any lacks thereof--even if we sometimes think otherwise.

Trauma is tough to erase; it's a one-day-at-a-time process. What feels like missed opportunities is just past trauma and abuse taking over, making us feel vulnerable. And when we feel vulnerable, we get reactive (as opposed to proactive). There is no such thing as missed opportunities. As I write this, the clock has turned 10:10--10.10 was the day after I went to the stone circle last year. The day I witnessed pure magic. If you are reading this now, it's a message for you to create your own magic:

We can only manifest opportunities from a mindset of abundance, which means, we must stop focusing on scarcity in our lives--whether that's in love, with family, friends, or finances.

When we want to see opportunities, they appear. When we don't, all seems lost. The fact of the matter is that as magical as that time felt last October, the real magic has been consistently happening in my life for nearly a decade. Maybe it's a tweet. A text. Or an unexpected melody. Nina Simone's "Cherish." Or perhaps something from Dorothy Ashby (to go with my candle-lit fireplace). Maybe Glen Campbell's "Always on My Mind" shows up. Or, just a funny "Calvin & Hobbs" cartoon. All shared by one consistent, loyal, supportive friend--those are the traits I treasure in another human being more than anything else.

It's always nice to share your happiness with someone who sees you for you and loves you just the same. No matter how many times I've lost my temper, patience, or both and no matter how many times I've had a bad day (and was unresponsive as a result), this same person has been consistently there. And, on some level, I think I've known that all along...just too scared to admit it. Or perhaps it's better to say, imagine it.

People always worry about the future. But it's the now that matters....

Be present in the present. Notice who's noticing you. See who really cares. Take the time to text that someone a message that brightens their day, every day. Apologize if you've taken them for granted, too. Who knows how things may bloom and grow from there!

Truly important moments are never lost. The important people in your life give you second and third chances. Actually, they give you infinite chances--because they will never prioritize problems over you. You matter. More than anything else. That kind of loyalty deserves to be acknowledged and appreciated.

For this full moon, I'm setting my intentions to reflect the care, love and loyalty I feel for the people who are actually in my life. The ones who have stuck around. For years. One in particular. That's what makes me smile at the end of the day. One person. You only ever need one to be on your side.

I hope each of you finds a someone who can make you smile-big...a person you can laugh with, share memories like old school photos, and even make future plans. Like going to see JAWS while floating on an inner tube in open water. Oh yes, once we no longer have to social distance--that's happening. Many other good things will happen, too.

How do I know?

Because I'm in charge of my life. No one and nothing else. Once we choose to take responsibility for ourselves, things get A LOT easier. So keep striving for that independence. Your life will improve exponentially...no magic needed!

#TheWoman

*Please check out the song list of Irish music inspired by this essay created by one of Ireland's best radio show hosts and presenters, Chris Sherlock--it's just below the video. Don't miss it!!!

Big THANK YOU to Chris Sherlock (also referred to in the essay),for creating the playlist below Chris is a radio show host and presenter in Galway, Ireland. When he read, "The Woman," Chris created a list of Irish music to go with the essay. You can find Chris every Wednesday on his CSI with Chris Sherlock--The Midweek Show on Flirt FM. Whether you're in Ireland or not, you can always catch previous episodes, including truly fantastic interviews with Irish musicians, writers and other creatives on Chris's MixCloud: https://www.mixcloud.com/discover/chris-sherlock+city:galway-ireland/

Chris is also a mental health advocate--his own story on his experiences with bullying debuts in the next Mental Health for Millennials being released on 10.10 2020--World Mental Health Day! Congrats to Chris and all the many authors involved in this groundbreaking book series from Ireland.

Enjoy exploring the world of Irish music, and when it's safe to travel widely again, be sure to add Ireland to your list of places to visit. I miss it every single day and look forward to returning "home" once again in the very near future.

Chris Sherlock's "Ireland" Playlist:

1, A Song for Ireland - Mary Black
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oRdDnpkR3AQ
2, Derek Ryan - Irish Heart
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y0_VVM_CErw
3, Nathan Carter Featuring The High Kings - May The Road Rise
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kM2UQ_1yhaU
4, Celtic Woman - Galway Bay
https://youtu.be/Zf3HjUF5dn4
5, Bagatelle - Summer In Dublin (Pronouced BAG- A - Tell)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FSOp7Ii6i1E
6, Bill Whelan - Riverdance (Choir & Instrumental)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igxl7iAl27U
7, Jim McCann - Grace
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SMf6IyJI0e4
8, The Wolfe Tones - Streets Of New York
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vXyv1TW4R4A
9, Christy Moore - The Voyage
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_surYSjPZQA
10, Finbarr Furey - The Galway Shawl
https://youtu.be/5Z_cyws5Hyw (Live on The Late Late Show Ireland)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jptPFWWfxCw (Album Recording)
11, Celtic Tenors - Going Home
https://youtu.be/IAhVU_qVMxI
12, The High Kings - The Parting Glass
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FcSqI1KZiLI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMkQExuzL_0 (Live In Dublin from their DVD)

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Health & Wellness UPDATE & NEWS

8/1/2020

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Hello to one and all! Hopeful each of you are keeping safe and well. These are trying times and I want to remind everyone you're not alone.

As global governments continue "phased" quarantine measures and we face a summer (and fall) of social distancing, travel restrictions, and the cancellation of annual warm-weather festivals, we all feel more anxiety and stress, not less. When lockdown first happened, none of us knew it would continue for as long as it has. Many lost jobs as companies paired down in the wake of what is now not just a health crisis, but what will be the worst economic recession in 100 years, according to Bloomberg. All of this uncertainty landed squarely in what was already a mental health pandemic, seeing a rise in depression, insomnia, suicide ideation and suicide, domestic violence, stalking, and other crime.

In the midst of all the uncertainty, I'd like to offer some hope...and yes, even healing:

SILVER LININGS

The one positive through self-quarantines and social distancing is that we have had the opportunity to go inward. That means we've had the space to actually think deeply about who we are and what we want. In other words, when you reach the other side of this pandemic, what do you want your life to look like? Who do you want as a life partner? Where do you want to live? And, do you want to change your profession?

Instead of focusing on things we can't control, let's zero-in on how to use our time to examine our lives. Relationships are the foundation of a successful life. Partnering is how we create greater financial stability. So that's an area to really look at as we move into warmer weather and can all take advantage of increased sunshine. More light has a positive affect on mental health and can aid in gaining more clarity. Basically, we will start to feel less vulnerable overall, which means, our decisions are legitimate proactive choices, not reactive fear-based responses to outside stimuli.

We also have the time to connect with family and friends in ways we didn't before. I've spoken to friends more frequently, not less. We've been connecting through voice messages on social media, WhatsApp, Skype, Zoom, Facetime...it's been rather wonderful.

If we all make time to connect with people we care about on a regular basis, we will come out of this pandemic stronger than ever before. We're social distancing to help others stay safe. It's not just a purely selfish act. That's incredible. Humanity is truly coming together by staying apart.

LOOKING FORWARD

Recent updates on the National Institute for Health (NIH) website detail how the first phase of human trials for the COVID-19 vaccine began on 16 March 2020. While traditional vaccines introduce weakened or dead pieces of the virus into our systems as a way to provoke an immune response, it can take a decade or more to make the necessary adjustments to a given formula that proves safe.

The majority of current vaccine trials are less conventional, using genetic molecules called mRNA as a base. No vaccine built from genetic material has ever been approved (see COVID BASICS below for more).

*VACCINE UPDATE AS OF AUGUST 2020*

Could not be happier (or prouder) to report that new findings reported in NATURE show tremendous promise for a SAFE, EFFECTIVE vaccine thanks to colleagues at Harvard in collaboration with Johnson & Johnson. No danger of ADE or enhancement with this formula. And, it will only take one shot as opposed to two! Most of the front-runners in the race for the vaccine are having mixed results and require more than one inoculation for temporary immunity. Human trials for the new Johnson & Johnson-owned formula are next. Keep your fingers and toes crossed! This could be ready by spring 2021...sign me up!

COVID BASICS

The timetable for vaccine approval at the outset was 12-18 months. That's fast. And, part of the challenge is avoiding what's called "antibody dependent enhancement" (ADE)--or a phenomenon that makes our bodies more susceptible to severe illness AFTER inoculation. ADE is known to happen with certain coronaviruses, which is why no vaccine currently exists for SARS.

The other challenge is something called "antigenic drift." Small mutations in the genes of a virus lead to minor changes in the surface proteins of that same virus. These surface proteins are known as "antigens." Antigens are recognized by the immune system, triggering an immune response by creating anti-bodies to block infection--at the moment, there's no evidence anti-bodies exist even after patients recover from COVID-19, making it even more difficult to find a way to create a vaccine that can provide even short-term protection. "Drift" produces different viruses that are closely related, which means there can still be "cross-protection" from a vaccine. But when it accumulates over time, each successive viral variation becomes antigenically different--essentially, the body's immune system no longer recognizes the virus anymore, so any vaccination is rendered ineffective.

"Antigenic shift" is different from "drift" and is the likely reason behind SARS-CoV-2. Unlike "drift," "shift" accounts for major change in a virus creating whole new antigens. When that happens, a virus confined to one species can infect another, like with H1N1 ("swine flu").

Anti-body testing is now available. Quest Diagnostics has a direct-to-consumer product and there are test sites popping up in places like Walgreens and some pharmacy and grocery store chains in the States. My best advice is to contact your General Practitioner (GP) and ask about what the best options may be for you. Knowing one has the anti-bodies present for COVID-19 would theoretically allow for things like future travel and a return to on-site employment, but it's a double-edged sword in that you also may be able to carry the disease to others if you're asymptomatic. Current anti-body testing is mainly relying on what's called serological tests--which identifies if you had the virus--however, that is not the same as being protected from getting another infection in future. Masks and hand-washing will still be a requirement to protect others (and will likely be the norm for the foreseeable future). Also, not all anti-body testing is created equal--I can't stress enough how important it is to check with your GP on your options for ANY testing connected to COVID-19.

"COVID toes" are the latest symptom linked to SARs-CoV-2 (novel coronavirus/COVID-19). "Covid toes" can present as red, swollen and/or have the appearance of bruising and/or a rash. Not everyone will have this symptom. Please check with your GP if you have any symptom connected to COVID-19.

The Center for Disease Control (CDC) added new symptoms to the list that now includes fever, cough, shortness of breath, difficulty breathing, chills, shaking with chills, headache, sore throat, muscle pain, and/or the loss of taste/smell.

"Multisystem Inflammatory Syndrome in Children" (MIS-C) has been reported in children around the world; it presents like Kawasaki Disease but is essentially how COVID-19 manifests in children. According to the CDC, symptoms include fever, rash, swollen lymph nodes, redness/irritation of the eyes, swollen hands and feet, as well as inflammation and irritation of the lips, mouth and throat. Your child may have more than one of these symptoms. If your child presents with any symptom listed here, please contact your pediatrician's office on next steps. It's important not to panic, as well as to protect yourself while caring for a sick child. Go to CDC.gov for guidelines on how parents can stay safe.

Gilead's Remdesivir, used in clinical trials all over the world, has emerged as a promising treatment for those already infected with COVID-19. Recent research published 22 May in the New England Journal of Medicine shows a shortened recovery time for patients with advanced COVID-19: 11 days as opposed to 15. That's not to say that some patients did not still die from COVID-19 while on the drug, but their deaths were not connected to Remdesivir. Researchers found Remdesivir most effective for use with oxygen therapy--only possible if a patient doesn't require being on a ventilator. While it's still too early to assign Remdesivir as an overall treatment, it is hopeful for the future. Other antiviral medication used in conjunction with Remdesivir is being considered as well.

In May 2020, Remdesivir was approved by the FDA as a potential treatment for patients with advanced COVID-19.

Hydroxychloroquine (Plaquenil), the drug President Trump has a financial stake in (and also claims he's taken as a preventative for COVID-19), was suspended by the World Health Organization as a treatment because of it's potential to cause early mortality rates in COVID-19 patients. The drug itself is used to treat Malaria and is accepted as generally safe for patients with autoimmune diseases (lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, etc,), but that doesn't mean it's safe to use on patients with advanced COVID-19.

Plaquenil is known to cause heart arrhythmia, among other adverse effects. Two studies published in BMJ (British Medical Journal) on 14 May out of France and China both found that patients with advanced COVID-19 did not see increased improvement with Plaquenil but were more prone to other issues after use, including heart problems.

What makes COVID-19 so formidable?

COVID-19 uses ACE-2 receptors as entry points. That may not sound very scary until you realize that those entry points are located on the cell membranes of vital organs like your heart, lungs, liver, and kidneys.

What are ACE-2 receptors and why are they so important?

ACE-2 receptors are enzymes that lower blood pressure through a process called hydrolysis--a chemical reaction where a molecule is separated into smaller parts. The term "ACE-2" is an acronym for "angiotensin-converting enzyme 2." Angiotensin is a peptide hormone. Peptides are chains composed of amino acids. They're essentially proteins. Angiotensin causes vascular constriction, which increases blood pressure (to help our blood move around our bodies); it also helps with necessary sodium retention in the kidneys. Angiotensin is an integral part of our hormone system that regulates things like blood pressure and the balance between fluids and electrolytes. ACE-2 receptors are also present on our arteries--which helps to explain why concerns surrounding COVID-19 include blood clots.

ASKING FOR HELP

It's more important than ever before to recruit "helpers" so we can stay strong and healthy until a vaccine becomes available. A good month before lockdown, I started a new telepractice so I could help readers from all over the world gain comfort and clarity in their lives. To that end, I've been pursuing postgrad continuing/education in specialized COVID-19 topics (pregnancy/breastfeeding, psychosocial effects, ethics, leadership, mental health, vulnerable populations, vaccine development, stress, immunology, cancer patients/oncology, cardiology, hematology, pediatrics, endocrinology, obesity, etc.) at Harvard Medical School (HMS), as well as courses on positive psychology, grief, depression, and anxiety in the midst of the current crisis from the American Psychological Association (APA), and finally, a special APA accredited course on the Neurobiology of Trauma (NICABM). Feel free to review my recent CE certificates below. All Harvard Medical School coursework is accredited by the American Medical Association.

My telepractice serves the US, Canada, UK, and Ireland M-F 9am-9pm Eastern and is compassion-based, using positive psychology tools, guided self hypnosis and meditation techniques in targeted sessions. My sessions are meant for EVERYONE so are affordable for EVERYONE! I operate on a sliding scale so if someone has lost their job or is part of a hiring freeze, you can still get affordable care now and in the future.

To read more about my areas of specialization, please click the link below:

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To read my free digital column on Psychology Today, "Survive Anything: Learn How to Live Longer and Stronger," please visit:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/hk/blog/survive-anything/202005/face-shields-and-covid-19

Even though things are tough, we are far from lost. You're never alone. We can effect positive change together. I'm here for you. Remember, you are BUILT FOR VICTORY!!!

Stay safe! And, please check back here for all your COVID-19 health and wellness updates--this page will be continuously updated with the latest information throughout the crisis.

You're never alone...I'm here for you.

Doc H

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What's in a name???

6/22/2020

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What's in a name??? More than you might think! Let's take the name, "Jonathan," for example:

"Jonathan" comes from the Hebrew, "Yehonatan," which means "Gift of God" or "God's Gift,"...and I couldn't agree more.

Hebrew is an ancient language deeply rooted in its roots. The prefix in "Yehonatan" is a double "yud." The "yud" is a Hebrew letter that looks like a vertical dash, as if writing a lower case "l" from the top-down and stopping halfway. A double-yud, then, looks like a mini "11." Yud makes the "y" sound, and doubled, makes that sound twice.

Hebrew vowels are called "nikkudote," a series of dots and lines that provide the additional sound (and therefore, meaning) to a given letter. When you combine the "nikkudote" or vowels with the double-yud, it becomes the ultimate sacred name of God (which is why I can't share the specific vowel sounds here--you'd have to learn Hebrew yourself, earn the right to know those sacred syllables).

"Jonathan" begins it's life from the Divine. From divinity comes grace. From grace, miracles. And from miracles, life itself. That is "Jonathan"--divine grace, miracles and life.

"Yud" represents the number "10." In Hebrew, each letter in the "aleph-bet" (or alphabet) also has a numerical value. The number "10" represents the cosmos--creation--in Numerology. Two "yuds" equal a #1010 (which can then be simplified to "11"--the number of awakening, enlightenment and unconditional love). Interestingly, my birth date becomes a #1010. I was also born on the day the Jewish people expected the Messiah to be reborn...luckily, they were looking for a man.

The root of "Jonathan" or "Yehonatan" is "natan"--Hebrew for "give" or "gift." When you put the double-yud at the beginning of "Yehonatan" (or "Jonathan") with the root "natan," you get "Gift of God" or "God's Gift."

So, "Jonathan" begins with the power of infinity--all the light and energy of the Universe--the very power behind creation itself, then, this holy trinity of syllabic sovereignty ends with the gift of giving. It's a truly beautiful name for beautiful souls....

There is also another way to look at the name, "Jonathan":

The Hebrew word, "Yonah" (which you can hear in the beginning of the name, "J(Y)ona-than"), means "dove." The dove is a symbol of God, more specifically, a symbol of God's promise of peace. A dove brought an olive ranch to Noah after the great flood to let him know that the storm had passed and life on Earth was renewed. The suffix "taan" means "to pierce" or "thrust through" in one spelling; but it also means "to give."

We often don't think of "peace" as something that "pierces" or "thrusts" through anything, but that's because piercing and thrusting are often associated with violence. However, what if we saw piercing and thrusting through the eyes of love? When a man is attracted to a woman--has romantic feelings for her (or chemistry, if you will)--he pierces her, thrusting deep inside her body. It is the same for men who have love-feelings for other men.

And, what do we all feel after we've come into physical union with someone we're attracted to?

We feel satisfied. Happy. And yes, we also feel a sense of peace.

During sex, our spirits become uplifted. When physically expressing appreciation for someone I'm very attracted to, the visual in my mind is of winged-angels, intertwined, rising higher and higher toward the heavens as we move closer and closer to climax. It's representative of transmutation. Awakening, Enlightenment. A raw, vital evolution of the soul. Good sex with an attractive partner can do that. Bring positive change, inside and out.

In Tantric tradition, the electric feeling we get before, during and after sex with an attractive partner is considered a release of our "kundalini." The word "kundalini" is Sanskrit for the divine energy (or "shakti") "coiled" at the base of the spine, connected to the power of the "devi" or "goddess." Joining with the "goddess" releases "shakti" or the dynamic (and primordial) cosmic energy responsible for overwhelming joy.

In some forms of Tantra, we can reach "kundalini" through sex with a partner that we have a deep connection to--when our kundalini "rises" during sex, it's like the fabled phoenix of mythology, rising up from nothing (or ash) into an intense winged firebird. You are transported, transcending physical bonds as your mind, body and spirit reach another plane. When you get to this level with a partner, no matter how many physical miles separate you thereafter, you remain connected. To some degree, you can "see" them," even "hear" them. And yes, you can "feel" that person, too.

Some may dismiss "kundalini" as "new age," but that means dismissing nearly 15,000 years of human history, literature, art, music, and cultural beliefs. In fact, the oldest evidence of writing in the known world comes from the Upanishads--that's where the concepts of Tantra and kundalini come from. Exploring the release of shakti through Tantric sex is part of Advaita Vedanta--the oldest philosophy on the planet. Older than the Hebrew god and the Hebrew language, which traces its collective history back 6,000 years. The Upanishads are Vedanta and Vedanta, the Upanishads. Both are older than any other mode of human thought--far more ancient than the "ancient" Greeks or even the Egyptian gods and goddesses. That means the concepts of kundalini, shakti and Tantra are also older than anything else known to mankind. That makes it hard to dismiss out of hand. And then, there is the physical evidence....

When I think of all the ancient roots deep within the name "Jonathan," I can't help but think of peace, of doves, of the great flood representing rebirth, renewal and all the wonders of the cosmos--creation itself. And yes, I also think of sex. But not just any sex. The kind of sex that can deliver you from difficulty, raise you up, give you peace and joy. Something that is gentle, loving, respectful, but also, super-charged with divine chemistry. The kind that is unforgettable. Not because it leaves you bruised or bleeding or broken. Unforgettable because, for more than five hours, green eyes looked into yours without staring at your D-cups--not even once. Unforgettable because of an unforgettable smile in appreciation of your ramblings on medicine and science--no one else ever smiled at you like that before, for any reason. Unforgettable because, for maybe the first time ever, you had a really engaging conversation with someone who was (finally!) your equal. And, despite your incredible awkwardness, the flawless angel you were with is completely unforgettable because he somehow made you lighter, full of life, love, hope, and healing (regardless of how sad, frustrating, traumatic, and disappointing your life was before that moment).

I mean, that's just awesome. In the truest sense of the word "awesome."

Yes, "Jonathan" is an unforgettable gift full of unforgettable gifts. "Jonathan" plants seeds of knowledge. Over time, those seeds grow into a tree. Not just a tree of knowledge, but a tree of life.

"Etz chayim" means "tree of life" in Hebrew. In Kabbalah, or Jewish metaphysics, the different levels of Heaven are represented by the tree of life, where there are four worlds or dimensions. The "ohr" or "light"--all the divine energy in the Universe--comes from "atzilut." or the state of infinity where infinite divine energy and light exist. "Atzilut" is the fourth dimension (btw, Tesla's fascination with 3-6-9 was because he believed that numerical combination was the key to the fourth dimension). The number "4" represents Archangels in Numerology for this reason--anything connected to infinite energy is represented by a "4." Those born on the 4th, 13th, 22nd, or 31st all have the same soul number--"4." These individuals are each connected to infinite energy (and by extension, each other), which is part of the "twin flame" narrative.

The number "4" is simplified to #1111--the number that represents twin flames. Anyone with a "4" soul number is considered a "twin flame" and is also connected to not just infinity and infinite energy, but the second ("2" simplifies to "11") dimension known as "beriah" (or "creation" in Hebrew). "Beriah" is the beginning of consciousness outside of infinity, which is why angels are often the beings thought of as answering prayers or hearing prayers. Infinity is infinite and not engaged or aware of anything outside of that space. But infinite energy with consciousness (or an angel) is aware of other kinds of consciousness, so can be connected to the infinite while also acutely aware of life outside of infinity. And, by the way, humans can do that, too.

So, what's in a name? You tell me....

"Jonathan" is not just a "Jon" or a "Jay" or a "Johnnie." Nor is "Jonathan" merely a "Nate" or "Nathan" or "Nady." "Jonathan" is the real deal. A true blessing. That rare gift you never see coming and may even discount on some level as "unavailable" or "too good to be true" or whatever other excuse or justification you come up with to walk away from what you really don't want to walk away from. That's what "Jonathan" means...and, so much more.

I have great affection for "Jonathan." Wherever you are in the world, never forget how special you (and your name!) are. And, never, ever forget that you are beloved. Not just by me--but by the Universe itself!

#Jonathan

Post-script. This is a repost in honour of the birthday of the one who inspired me to write this:

Happy Birthday, Jonathan--wherever you are, may you have peace, light and love...every time I see a rainbow, I will smile, thinking of yours.

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#Water

6/9/2020

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Water conducts emotion
It conducts me, too...

Locals on Cape Cod call me "Selkie"
Or, "The Mermaid Queen"
Such is my reputation for swimming with Seals
Dolphins
And, Mink Whales
Sharks, too, of course

Fishermen issue warnings as I flow by with the waves,
"You've crossed into the Great White's territory now...better head back to shore!"
But I don't turn back
Not until I sense the shark nearby
Even then, I wait
Just to make sure it's not fear ruling my heart

How one behaves in water shows character
Timidity keeps people on shore
Or, wading in the shallows
It is only those with integrity that cross the sand bar
Braving wet lashes across your cheeks and nose
To seek out life beyond the hook

My feet ache to become fins
But I am grounded
Grounded by human life
The sea told me last summer to stay
To remain in her embrace
Where it's safe...safe to be me

Safe to love and live and hunt
Most of the time...
Humans mucked that up, too
They long to escape their gravity
But lack wings
So take out their frustration on Nature

Human nature is to sabotage
The Self
And everyone else
At any cost
Even love
For, there is no cost too high to salve man's ego

As the cottonwood begins to fly
I inevitably start to cry
With a red-rimmed, watery eye
That's my call to go home
My heart ceased to roam
The moment I understood the "Om"

Divine timing calls
Asking me to tear down walls
Repairing the damage from past falls
"Believe," She says, "the future will be bright,
Love isn't always a blight
When real, it's more miracle wrapped in light."

But what of money?
What of distance?
Jobs?
Family?
Friends?
All good questions, just not the right ones...

I've had money
I've had distance
I've had jobs
Family and friends
But love is the missing piece
The fold that makes the crease

Everything is simpler in the sea
Land brings nothing but confusion, illusion
Things that appear clear are murky
While still water runs deep
That's when things got steep
And why I, I continue to weep.

For, I am water enrobed in flame
Bound to leak, more's the shame....

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No Matter What

5/15/2020

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It was six months
On the sixth
Six. Months.
The Scorpio has a theory
Her cards say you're in pain
Projecting previous people
On my face, like a movie screen
But I'm not entertained
Are you???
It's not pride
I swallowed mine in March
To give you a proper goodbye
So you could say hello again
But I kept thinking of things I'd forgotten to say...for three more weeks!
Has that ever happened to you?
Looking backward, things seem different
You seem different
You're in love with me...I know
That moment when you were in the chair and I walked out of the bathroom, right?
Madly, truly, deeply on my end, too
Silence speaks
Can you hear it?
I can...
I know things are complicated
And I know you still have miles to go before you sleep
But I also know you look for me
Read me
See my pictures
And smile that smile
You cry, too
But I'm not going anywhere
Nor am I looking for anyone...just you
Whenever you're ready
I'll listen
No judgement
Just love
Compassion
Kindness
You're safe (in my heart)
To exist
To breath
To expand
To live
To love

It's a gift...love
Like my life
And, yours
You've certainly changed mine

There's no deadline
No rush
Breathe
Relax
Real love is limitless
Unconditional
You can take your time
Get your bearings
Think things through...again
You don't have to worry
I'm here

No matter what....

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The Feather

5/7/2020

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The stag wandered toward me
At first, I thought it a dream
The yellow-faced moon, big bellied
Full of fertile wishes
Including mine own (and not mine own)

But two hardened hooves pounded into the newly thawed ground
With a loud HUFF, the horned stag tilted
Announcing his charge
That's when I stood up in challenge
Tall and proud and unafraid

Just then, the stag stopped cold
Taking two steps back, he maintained eye contact
Bowing and bobbing his head
He did that three times
Before I extended an open palm

My head, bowed low like my lithe body
My arms, stretched wide, like a bird in flight
The stag took a step closer
Swaying as he approached
Ah...the ancient dance had finally begun!

The stars faintly twinkled above
As greyish clouds swept across the whispering moon
The new leaves of the Crimson King brustled at my boldness
But Michael, hovering just above the tree line
Let loose a feathery token of his pride

It floated down between me and the stag
I curtsied low to pick up my prize
As I did, I felt the stag's breath on my neck
Even the moon half-hid behind the pines in that moment
But it was part of the dance....

My hand naturally went up to the stag's flank
My hair, brushing the crest of his chest
As I continued to rise (and rise...and still, I rise)
My eye met his
The moon rested there, reflecting back at me as if mirrored in the surface of a still pond

Just to see me
See me dance
Dance with a stag
In the moonlight
Under the stars

The wild wind picked up
Whipping around my tiny house on a hill
That's when the feather flew from my hand
Catching in my nest of curls
As a tiny bat bravely fluttered by

With barely a sound, the stag (and his white tail) ran down the hill
But just before disappearing into the forest
He stopped
Turning toward me,
He bowed his hoary, heavy head

Closing my eyes, bending low at the waist
I returned the favour
But when I stood again, the stag vanished into the night
I was alone
Except for the moon...and, Michael

Smiling down at me
Like he did the first day we met
In the old farm field
After I lost my daughter
After I lost many things

Never my wings though...
Invisible as they are
They still drag on the dusty ground behind me
Permanently stained at the tips
Streaked with blood...and many, many tears.

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Rebecca Housel, Ph.D., known as "The Pop Culture Professor" (TM), is an international best-selling author and editor in nine languages and 100 countries. Rebecca, listed in the Directory of American Poets & Writers for her work in nonfiction, was nominated by Prevention magazine essayist and best-selling author of The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, Rebecca Skloot, to the National Association of Science Writers for her work on cancer. Rebecca has published with best-selling author of The Accidental Buddhist, Dinty Moore's literary nonfiction journal, Brevity, and with commercial publications like Redbook magazine and online journals like In Media Res. Her recent interviews appear in publications such as the LA Times, Esquire, USA TODAY, The Huffington Post, Inside Higher Ed, Woman's World magazine, and Marie Claire as well as on FOX news, and NBC. Former President of the New York College English Association, Housel was a professor in both Atlanta and New York, teaching popular culture, film, creative writing, literature, and medical humanities. Dr. Housel currently works on the Editorial Advisory Boards for the Journal of Popular Culture and the Journal of American Culture; she has also worked as a reviewer for Syracuse University Press and Thomson Wadsworth. A writer of all genres, Housel has written and published both fiction and nonfiction in over ten books and 398 articles, essays, book chapters, book reviews, and encyclopedia entries.

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