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2/22/2020

Sometimes there are no words;
And other times, there are too many....

I don't want to walk one more step (with/out you)
Not even one
You rejoice in (my) pain
Revel in (my) isolation
There's something very wrong with all of that (and, you...)

Karma always catches up
Your hubris, a beacon
Glaring through the fog of resentment
Patience is an earned virtue
By the way, so am I....

That which insulates you will end
As all good things must
I wonder if you will feel sad then?
I think I will, regardless
I wanted better for you, you know

How very disappointing it must be
(...that I lived)
You fantasized so often about (my) death
Dreamt of the glories you'd receive
How do you suppose that will now balance out?

I, for one, can't wait to see how this movie ends....

Evil and good are symbiotic
Thankfully, we're not.
Luckily, good things come to those who wait
The wheel of fortune will eventually turn
Where will you be then, I wonder?

I'm just going to sit back
Get some popcorn
Maybe a root beer
Put my feet up
And enjoy the show

Oh, and, before I forget
Stop implying I'm slow...or, don't
Every insult, every abuse, every hardship
Just makes the hole you're burying yourself in deeper
And, wider.

I'm infinitely better
Every single day of the week
You know it
Or, you wouldn't work so hard to hold me down
And, back...

The first time you rejoiced at (my) pain
The Universe spoke (in sotto voce),
"Fear not, for you shall outlive your enemies, one and all."
Time will tell, eh???
But don't worry...I never will.

#wretched

*original photo Copyright Rebecca Housel 2020

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Yes, You Can!

2/19/2020

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The thing about possibilities is that, once you recognise what those possibilities are, you've effectively removed your limits. Yes, it's true that we may be born into a world full of social disadvantage, but the limits we struggle with most are those we put on ourselves.

Mere hours ago, I thought certain realities were only possible through impossible means. Or at least, highly unlikely means. But because I had limited myself with a decision decades ago, I was living a much smaller life than what I was created for. The same can be said for most humans. Maybe it's bad advice. Or, bad examples. Perhaps it's just bad decisions. Whatever the impetus, we make choices based on the "bad" and often, those choices aren't so much a choice as they are a reaction.

Reacting to our environment is part of physical life. Stimuli appear and it forces us to move, change direction, or even, change ourselves. But reaction is not choice. We tend to forget that. However, being proactive is a choice.

What's the difference?

Reaction is something that's automatic. It's part of our survival instinct. While proaction means making deliberate decisions toward achieving desired goals. Maybe things don't always go exactly as you might expect, but when you're proactive, one, two, three, or three-million blips don't matter. You keep going. You keep going because you WANT to, not because you HAVE to.

When you keep going instead of letting frustration distract, stall, or, stop you altogether, every step you take brings you closer to your end-goal.

There are a myriad of "have-tos" in human existence. How we spend our time and who we choose to spend it with can often seem like a "have-to," but in reality, the only thing we have to do is be the best version of ourselves we can be. Sure, we all have to earn to live, but you don't have to say "yes" to things you don't want to do. You also don't have to be with anyone who doesn't absolutely make your heart sing.

Remember, there is a difference between want-to and have-to. Want comes from the soul, but need is based on fear. And fear is derived from reaction.

You are in control of your future--no one and nothing else. People who worry about things like "timing" are living fear-based lives. Being reactive instead of proactive is indicative of a victim mentality (and a good sign Narcissism may be at play). Being a victim of circumstance or "fate" is far more rewarding to the individual who wants sympathy than the natural rewards (including financial independence) that manifest through self-responsibility.

Recognising the blows life has dealt you is not the same as victimhood--it's simply acknowledging the pain and difficulty one has survived. Survival without obstacles is not really admirable. But surviving despite difficulty? That's superheroic. And one needs to remember they have super-powers in order to live the life of favor, triumph and success we were literally created for...until and unless we decide otherwise.

Your checklist for turning possibility into probability?

1. Learn what motivates you!

Understanding your fears will help you recognise when your "choices" are really reactions. Once you know your triggers, you can move mountains. Part oceans. And take on the world.

2. Ask yourself what you really want in both life and love, and be honest when you do.

We all know when we're not happy with our situation. Maybe you settled. Maybe you settled because you were scared. Maybe you were scared because someone hurt you...bad. Maybe it's all of the above. No matter what, you have to be honest with yourself. Once you recognise the lies you've told yourself (in order to accept a smaller life than you deserve), you can start to move toward expanding your world.

3. Get help!

There isn't a single CEO, President or billionaire who became who and what they are without help. So, how is it you think you can get the life you both want and deserve without it? Get support for yourself and your goals by signing up for one of my Success Sessions, or any other session that can help you remove the obstacles holding you back:

https://www.rebeccahousel.com/store/p1/success-sessions.html

4. Be brave.

You'll feel scared as you begin to turn possibility into probability. That's why having professional support is so important in order to effectively translate the skills and talents you've been favored with into triumph. Even asking for help in the first place is brave. Opening up and sharing your dreams is also brave. You can do this! I believe in you...but you have to believe, too.

"One day" is now "Day One!"

Go get 'em, Tiger....

#yesyoucan

*Thanks to Roy Dube for the music suggestion! And, a very happy birthday to one of my favourite Aquarius's (born on the Pisces-cusp!). May the next year be your best yet, Roy. You deserve nothing less, my friend. Sending positive energy, peace, prosperity, protection, light, and luck to you and yours....

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Dr. Rebecca Housel is Opening an Online Practice!

2/17/2020

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Hello Dearest Readers!

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I can and will help you navigate your way to success!

We all need help. We all need support. Unlike therapy or coaching, I'm a true expert on resiliency and longevity--in other words, a strength trainer for your mind.

What does that mean?

I'm not self-proclaimed--I have 25 years of combined educational and professional expertise, including a Masters and a Doctorate, as well as 29 years of personal experience as a survivor of high-grade cancer (and all that entails). You can read more about my work in internationally-recognized publications like Psychology Today; I'm the author of "Survive Anything," and am also listed as an expert for the world's largest mental health website, 7Cups.com, winner of Stanford Medicine's X Award. Together, we can and will retrain your brain for success in both life and love.

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BUILT FOR VICTORY

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Laissez les Bon Temps Rouler

2/2/2020

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New Orleans is calling me home again
The centuries, a blur of people and places
But home will always be home
Even if I've lived a half dozen lives in between

We all get to this point
The point where we can decide
To live another hundred years
Or, press reset...

I'm not ready to be reborn
To struggle through the decades of a new life
Knowing who I am
Yet unable to act

It's frustrating...

It's not in the big, obvious things where my success lies
It is in the unseen...
Those areas of life that are, shall we say, private
And, this lifetime has been full...very full

New Orleans always has the answers
Ireland held a piece of the puzzle, too
But Stonehenge started the journey
From whence my soul traveled to the bottom of the world

The Asian continent was once home as well
Then the Middle East
And, Northern Africa
Whose gods still talk to me

Spiders remind me of my time in Rome
And my long journey to the Britons
Where I lived once before
Before Rome was more than just a city

Despite all I am and all I know
Love is my greatest desire
It's the most valuable treasure Earth has to offer
Sadly, few recognise the opportunity as the miracle it is

May true love find you, cherish you and keep you
For, there is nothing better
And nothing worse
Just like my beloved New Orleans....

#laissezlesbontempsrouler

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About the Author

Rebecca Housel, Ph.D., known as "The Pop Culture Professor" (TM), is an international best-selling author and editor in nine languages and 100 countries. Rebecca, listed in the Directory of American Poets & Writers for her work in nonfiction, was nominated by Prevention magazine essayist and best-selling author of The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, Rebecca Skloot, to the National Association of Science Writers for her work on cancer. Rebecca has published with best-selling author of The Accidental Buddhist, Dinty Moore's literary nonfiction journal, Brevity, and with commercial publications like Redbook magazine and online journals like In Media Res. Her recent interviews appear in publications such as the LA Times, Esquire, USA TODAY, The Huffington Post, Inside Higher Ed, Woman's World magazine, and Marie Claire as well as on FOX news, and NBC. Former President of the New York College English Association, Housel was a professor in both Atlanta and New York, teaching popular culture, film, creative writing, literature, and medical humanities. Dr. Housel currently works on the Editorial Advisory Boards for the Journal of Popular Culture and the Journal of American Culture; she has also worked as a reviewer for Syracuse University Press and Thomson Wadsworth. A writer of all genres, Housel has written and published both fiction and nonfiction in over ten books and 398 articles, essays, book chapters, book reviews, and encyclopedia entries.

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Dr. Rebecca Housel is Opening an Online Practice!

Laissez les Bon Temps Rouler

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