Mere hours ago, I thought certain realities were only possible through impossible means. Or at least, highly unlikely means. But because I had limited myself with a decision decades ago, I was living a much smaller life than what I was created for. The same can be said for most humans. Maybe it's bad advice. Or, bad examples. Perhaps it's just bad decisions. Whatever the impetus, we make choices based on the "bad" and often, those choices aren't so much a choice as they are a reaction.
Reacting to our environment is part of physical life. Stimuli appear and it forces us to move, change direction, or even, change ourselves. But reaction is not choice. We tend to forget that. However, being proactive is a choice.
What's the difference?
Reaction is something that's automatic. It's part of our survival instinct. While proaction means making deliberate decisions toward achieving desired goals. Maybe things don't always go exactly as you might expect, but when you're proactive, one, two, three, or three-million blips don't matter. You keep going. You keep going because you WANT to, not because you HAVE to.
When you keep going instead of letting frustration distract, stall, or, stop you altogether, every step you take brings you closer to your end-goal.
There are a myriad of "have-tos" in human existence. How we spend our time and who we choose to spend it with can often seem like a "have-to," but in reality, the only thing we have to do is be the best version of ourselves we can be. Sure, we all have to earn to live, but you don't have to say "yes" to things you don't want to do. You also don't have to be with anyone who doesn't absolutely make your heart sing.
Remember, there is a difference between want-to and have-to. Want comes from the soul, but need is based on fear. And fear is derived from reaction.
You are in control of your future--no one and nothing else. People who worry about things like "timing" are living fear-based lives. Being reactive instead of proactive is indicative of a victim mentality (and a good sign Narcissism may be at play). Being a victim of circumstance or "fate" is far more rewarding to the individual who wants sympathy than the natural rewards (including financial independence) that manifest through self-responsibility.
Recognising the blows life has dealt you is not the same as victimhood--it's simply acknowledging the pain and difficulty one has survived. Survival without obstacles is not really admirable. But surviving despite difficulty? That's superheroic. And one needs to remember they have super-powers in order to live the life of favor, triumph and success we were literally created for...until and unless we decide otherwise.
Your checklist for turning possibility into probability?
1. Learn what motivates you!
Understanding your fears will help you recognise when your "choices" are really reactions. Once you know your triggers, you can move mountains. Part oceans. And take on the world.
2. Ask yourself what you really want in both life and love, and be honest when you do.
We all know when we're not happy with our situation. Maybe you settled. Maybe you settled because you were scared. Maybe you were scared because someone hurt you...bad. Maybe it's all of the above. No matter what, you have to be honest with yourself. Once you recognise the lies you've told yourself (in order to accept a smaller life than you deserve), you can start to move toward expanding your world.
3. Get help!
There isn't a single CEO, President or billionaire who became who and what they are without help. So, how is it you think you can get the life you both want and deserve without it? Get support for yourself and your goals by signing up for one of my Success Sessions, or any other session that can help you remove the obstacles holding you back:
4. Be brave.
You'll feel scared as you begin to turn possibility into probability. That's why having professional support is so important in order to effectively translate the skills and talents you've been favored with into triumph. Even asking for help in the first place is brave. Opening up and sharing your dreams is also brave. You can do this! I believe in you...but you have to believe, too.
"One day" is now "Day One!"
Go get 'em, Tiger....
*Thanks to Roy Dube for the music suggestion! And, a very happy birthday to one of my favourite Aquarius's (born on the Pisces-cusp!). May the next year be your best yet, Roy. You deserve nothing less, my friend. Sending positive energy, peace, prosperity, protection, light, and luck to you and yours....