The way you feel about yourself is reflected back to you...most of the time. If you're a stable individual, you deserve someone who respects you and your time. But instead of respect, you're getting breadcrumbed. Text messages, but no actual phone calls? How about when the other person claims to think of you all the time, yet doesn't show up for your date? And, instead of rescheduling, continues to avoid responsibility by ghosting you for three days to three weeks at a time???
Talk about red flags....
"But we have a connection!"
No, babe, you don't. You WANT a connection. The other person clearly doesn't. What they want is attention. So they're stringing you along in an attempt to control you. You're their puppet. If they ever decide to change the texts to calls and to actually show up for your dates, there will be no happy ending for you. Only an ending.
Cut the cord and move on.
If you're not married or living together, count your blessings.
Feeling a "connection" usually goes both ways but we're not all connected to our inner selves. ANYONE who breadcrumbs you is LYING to themselves about how they really feel. They're probably lying to you, too.
The way they're treating you? It's what they think they deserve.
You're shooting too low if you are a secure, stable adult yet have some joker standing you up, texting you on social media and all while avoiding your calls. You might buy the excuses...for a little while. You're not dumb if you do. In fact, you're probably straight forward, truthful and approach people in an open, friendly manner. That's not a bad thing. But it can (temporarily) leave you feeling *a tad* vulnerable.
Give it no more than 30 days. If you haven't gone out by then, you won't be. That said, you may WANT the connection to stick around. Time is the one resource we cannot get back--how much do you have to waste on a dead end? Six months? Eight months?? A year??? Don't let an insecure person squander your very precious resources. Because, that will be the (sad) result until you end it once and for all.
Don't look back once you've let go...instead, LOOK UP!
You deserve a person who appreciates you and ALL you bring to the table. An individual who really wants you will not only say they want to see you, they'll book that vacation! They'll call you, too. They'll show up for your video dates and will not keep you guessing. They won't try to manipulate you. They'll get the STI testing. They'll get vaccinated, too. And, they'll pay for the Lift at the end of the night...as well as dinner. Yes, yes they will.
If you're not getting treated well (see above), be done. Don't vacillate. You're self-sabotaging if you do.
Are you FINALLY ready to start LOOKING UP???
I hope so. It's 2022! Time to build your foundation for the life you not only want but DESERVE.