I used to believe that EVERYONE made compromises to live the life they wanted. But it's not really true. There are actual people out there who NEVER have to compromise...and do you know why? Because of the facilitators out there, people who enable the lives of others through their own.
If you're a facilitator, too, and you begin to examine the question of what you want, you may find that the answers you come up with have little to do with you, and more to do with others. And there's nothing wrong with that. If you're a giver, you want to give. It's your foremost priority. But not all facilitators are givers in that sense. Sometimes facilitators can slip into enabling to their own detriment, and that's where things get tricky.
"The moment" is a beautiful, clarifying thing. It allows you to crystallize all the different parts of your life, and really, truly imagine what YOU, and no one else, wants out of it. Afterall, it is YOUR life and YOU are the one who ultimately has to live with it.
And though it seems to make sense to ask yourself this kind of question and realistically begin to imagine the answer, logic doesn't always apply in the human world. We do illogical things everyday for a variety of reasons, some physiological, some social, some psychological--the "reasons" don't have to be reasonable. And at some point, you may find yourself in the unenviable position of looking both backward and forward, asking the question you avoided most of your life.
You don't have to be middle-aged for this to happen, by the way. "The moment" can come at any age--and you can make the necessary changes at any age as well. Why? Because when you ask yourself "What do I want?" at 20, the answer will be different than it will be at 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, 80, 90, or even 100! We should all strive to have "the moment" at least once every decade...because you can't go backwards, so as you move forward--begin to reimagine your life within the context of the next decade. Your past is always with you--and your future, at some point, becomes your past--so why not make it great? Why not ask yourself the hard question? You have nothing to lose except regrets.
Good luck on your continuing journey through our shared humanity--the road sometimes seems long and at other times, too short--but we are all on it together. Seek out connections! You will then be able to face anything, even "the moment," with total confidence and clarity.
Until next time, dearest readers....