Have you ever been at an impasse? You can't go any further because there's simply no where else to go? Your choices are simple and few. You can turn around; go back(wards). Or, you can try to push through, somehow move ahead--even though there's no where else to go. It's a fruitless pursuit, but in the face of devolution, one may choose to try, if for no other reason than as a distraction from the impasse itself. However, there is a third option: Curl up and wait to die. It's not something most of us choose to do. Though screaming before choosing any direction is typical. Because these choices, as it were, are incredibly frustrating.
After screaming in utter frustration, and before making your terrible choice, try looking at the impasse from a different perspective. A dog may bark at a squirrel two feet away, but because there is a high fence separating the two, the dog will continue barking, maybe digging, too, trying to move straight toward the squirrel. Humans do the same thing when it comes to an impasse. We growl. We bark, We even whine. We look for ways under the fence, But like the dog, we forget that there's a gate. Moving directly through the fence may not be possible, but if we check the perimeter, we'll eventually find easy access.
What does this have to do with Mother's Day? Mother's Day is just as deceptive as the chain link fence. You can see through it, see what you want, even be close enough to practically touch it, but unless you use logic, you'll only ever be frustrated, disappointed and ultimately, sad.
No impasse is insurmountable if one refuses to give up. To persevere sounds so courageous, so brave. But in reality, when one must push on despite continued obstacles, even amidst the bravery, there is a deep sadness at having to do it. Never take that for granted. Because though the impasse will be finished, the sadness derived from the effort sticks to the soul. And when you get lonely, which can happen on days like today, that sadness will appear to keep you company. Hold your hand. Sit next to you. And after a time, Doubt will appear as well.
Before you know it, you're no longer lonely. You've got lots of friends. Sadness. Doubt. Fear is not far behind. Hatred, close on Fear's heels.
Still, you are worth the effort.