When it's over, it's over. Hoping, wishing and praying for something else won't change the inevitable reality that change brings.
I thrive on change. Change pushes me to be better, to improve...to never, ever settle on something just because it's familiar or comfortable. We should strive for discomfort, for the unfamiliar, because that's when we are at our most powerful.
Twelve years ago, I lost use of my left leg. It was devastating. Still is. Today, every step is deliberate. Every movement of my body requires extra thought. It's not comfortable. Or familiar. Even after all these years. But it has forced me to be more resourceful than I would have been otherwise. And that's pushed me to be better in not just the physical areas of my life, but every aspect.
Once I let go of my grief, I was able to go on and accomplish goals that were otherwise impossible. Like earning a Doctorate. Writing five books. Publishing more than double my age in essays. And returning to the Entertainment industry. I also bike 25-30 miles a day. Not on a traditional bike, but why does that matter? It doesn't. Because, even with only one working leg, I have done more with my body, and my life, in the last twelve years than most people with two healthy legs accomplish in a lifetime. The reason: I embraced change. Which means, I know how to let go....
Doesn't mean that when change happens, it's easy to acclimate. Even for someone as practiced as me.
But if we trust ourselves, facing a future that is different than we may have imagined, or wanted, is easier to do. How do you do that??? By understanding that your mind will give up long before your body. That means that when you feel like you can't do something, you can. We all can. But we give up before we even really try. We give up, because we're afraid to let go.
When I look at the picture above, I see change. That beach, that sky, the entire landscape, is a product of change. And it's beautiful. Peaceful, even. Change is a gift to humanity. When we don't have the courage to make a decision, the flow of the Universe helps push us where we need to go. When you struggle against the Universal current, you will get tired. You will give up. But if you learn to accept the flow of change as a gift, you can swim for hours and never get tired. You can bike for 25-30 miles a day. You can outlast any problem. Even something as stubborn as cancer. Or disability. Or losing a job. Even the loss of a friend, or lover....
So go ahead, let go of whatever it is that's holding you back. That fear of change. Of moving forward. You will not only survive if you do, you'll thrive.