Chris and I first met through the #MH4M series. I was the sex/relationships expert in the first three volumes--also areas of expertise in my current telehealth practice. Chris had contacted me about coming in-studio for a live interview on his show, CSI #FlirtFM Galway. Of all the radio and podcast interviews I've done over the years as the #PopCultureProfessor, Chris's professionalism really stood out. And that was the moment we went from acquaintances to friends.
I spent about a month in Ireland in June 2019 and was there for just under two weeks in October. Given all that's going on in the world today, I'm immensely happy I did. The June trip was to work on the third volume of #MH4M and October was to do some speaking gigs, including Zeminar in Dublin, as well as attend the #MH4M III book launch on 10.10. After our interview, Chris offered to play tour guide, escorting me all over Galway--the picture insert is from our adventures featuring the sparkling waters of Galway Bay behind us. Chris even attended the book launch with me and our mutual friend, Pam--whom I love and miss and look forward to seeing once a vaccine becomes available. Pam is a celebrant, hypnotherapist, birthing coach, and fellow expert on positive psychology. She also happens to be one of my best friends. In fact, it was AFTER Pam and I arrived back at my hotel post-book launch that I got one of the happiest surprises of my life. Still get butterflies when I think of it!
Speaking of surprises, Chris told me last week that he was replaying our October interview tomorrow, 20 May, 2020, 11am Eastern/4pm Dublin/London time, You can listen live here:
To catch the show after it airs, go to Chris's Mixcloud page through the link below, where you can find some of the best Irish musicians around, as well as stellar interviews highlighting Irish artists, writers and even our beloved mutual friend, Heidi Messenger, an extraordinary psychic medium from Britain who passed away in Ireland on 10 April 2019:
Now, just to be clear, when you hear me talk about being in a thrupple during the interview--it's not as spicy as it sounds amidst the flow of our conversation. While I see myself as relatively progressive, I'm pretty old fashioned when it comes to what I want in a relationship. The "thrupple" I refer to included two lovely friends in the LGBTQ community who are married to each other. For many years, they kindly included me (pre-COVID) in outings to the movies, breakfasts, dinners, lunches, concerts--we've spent countless Christmases together and this past New Year's, had an A-MAZING party the likes of which even RuPaul would have been envious of (I wore a tux and a crown and looked ab-fab, if I do say so myself...and, I do!). Chris referred to the loss of my daughter in the show as well--her name is Emma and after she passed, these same friends generously offered to have me come and live with them. Incredibly compassionate...and, very humbling. I have my own home but it was really nice to know I had people who cared. It was only after my heartbreaking loss that we became a kind of "thrupple," simply because my friends didn't want me to be alone.
Like I said, not exactly as scintillating as it sounded on air. And, now that COVID-19 is on the scene, the "nonmonogamy" I refer to in Chris's show is certainly going to be a challenge if people want to stay healthy and safe and not risk the lives of others outside of their relationships. Condoms are not enough! If ever there was a time to look for your one, it's now.
My personal preference is a committed, monogamous long-term relationship. I've only ever had the real deal hit me once--but that chemistry and the overall positive love-energy was truly the stuff of a lifetime. If you're lucky enough to find it, keep it! Believe me, you will regret nothing more than losing the chance to be with the person who is your person. To that end, if you happen to be human and have experienced confusion and/or miscommunications that led to the end of what you knew at the soul-level was meant to be--do your best to mend those fences and get back on track. It's tough amidst the restrictions of the pandemic--I know--but even if you're relegated to video chats (and video sex!) until travel is once again possible, you shouldn't allow yourself to be intimidated by the temporary nature of the current crisis. Your long-term happiness and good health are worth every effort!
The individual who gives you unparalleled joy is more precious than anything else in this world (or the next). So be kind to yourself and let love in. Don't overthink. Just go for it. Once-in-a-lifetime quite literally only happens once. Trust in the Universe--and yourself. You got this!
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Remember, you are BUILT FOR VICTORY!!!
Stay safe, y'all....