The "numbers" for any given day come from the month, day and year. November 11th is an #1111 day. The year "2018" also simplifies to "11" (2+0+1+8=11), making today's ultimate simplified total #33 or "6" (3+3=6). So, while #1111 is in today's numbers, it's underlying purpose is about home, family, and breaking patterns of martyrdom connected to keeping the peace, or, maintaining the status quo.
When we claim victory over self-destructive behavior, we become "ascended master builders," represented in numerology as #222 (which simplifies to "6"); we see #222 in today's triple "11" day (1+1=2; 3x2=6). The number #33 is also a possible total from our triple "11" day--#33 means "master teacher" in numerology, implying that we have trials, obstacles and struggles ahead that can be resolved through learning, both teaching us a lesson as well as putting us in a position to "teach" others how to survive something similar. The other aspect to today's numbers is the possibility of a double #111--#111 is a number that tells of infinite potential. If one can visualize positive goals, see the path, then #111 implies you can not only manifest that path, but successfully walk it, too. Having the power of a double #111 means we have the light, or spark, within each of us to make positive change...we just have to be willing to work hard until that change manifests in our reality. That takes faith. You must believe in yourself. You cannot waiver. And, you can never give up.
Success is incremental, but so is failure. We move ever-so-slowly in the wrong direction, hoping no one notices. Why? Well, from a psychological perspective, there is a great deal in physical life that is beyond our control. However, we can control ourselves. Society is programmed to help you fail if you are different from the dominant social group. Financial, professional, even perhaps personal success in relationships may be harder to realize if that is the case...but you can be successful at failing! It's easy to fail when you are set up to do so. MUCH easier than getting beyond the boundaries of the tight social boxes built for you before you were even born. But that doesn't make it right. In fact, it will always be "wrong" because any expectation developed for you before you even knew yourself cannot, nor ever will be, the right "fit."
The number "11" is the primary "master number" in numerology. It represents awakening, unconditional love, and twin flames (two people who share the same soul). While "11" can be simplified to "2," the number "11" has a higher vibration--meaning, the number "1" doubled is a powerful statement of individuality and leadership. On it's own, the number "1" means the same thing, but when it does not stand next to an equal partner, as we see with an "11," it can also be selfish and a little insecure. In contrast, the number "2" is the combined whole of two individuals--it cannot exist without social support. And, as we can clearly see from the rampant manifestation of mental illness in the States via the slew of recent mass shootings, society or any social pursuit often requires we lower ourselves in some way. We almost have to settle socially, based on our geography, but also on our socio-economic status. When you meet someone and develop a relationship within that limited context, it's usually before you know what kind of a life-partner that individual will be. Yet, after a year or so of building a connection, you will want to make that relationship more permanent. Humans are hard-wired for companionship. We will put up with behavior we would otherwise not tolerate to connect with others, to maintain some level of meaningful companionship, and to create at least the illusion of permanency through personal attachments, like love.
So, when looking at today's overall total, we know that we are being asked to raise ourselves up when it comes to our relationships, but more importantly, we are being cued to develop ourselves as strong, independent individuals who can lead. We are also asked not to settle, but to find and empower those who are our equals. If you are a true leader, you do not want or need sycophants, blind followers, or people who are needy in any way, shape, or, form. A true leader empowers others to be strong and independent, taking co-dependency out of the equation. In a love relationship, if there are financial inequities between partners because of social resistance, the partner who is not susceptible to the same social scrutiny should create opportunities for the partner who is--not exploit that individual further by asking for monies (or taking monies) that cannot be replaced. When one partner has social advantages and exploits the partner who doesn't, the dominant partner is creating a vertical relationship. Vertical relationships mean that one person has the majority of control over money and the other partner must remain reliant, or dependent, in order to stay "whole." The moment the reliant partner even thinks about independence of any variety, that individual will be "punished" by the dominant partner, who both wants and needs to maintain control. This control is almost always issued through financial support, but also, by threatening the reliant partner's familial and other relationships. Isolating anyone keeps that person at least socially vulnerable. Something to keep in mind....
"Awakening" sounds so peaceful. But there's nothing peaceful about "waking up" to the fact that the person you devoted your life to has been exploiting you, holding you down and back, and has been doing it all with deliberation--maybe for a really long time. There's nothing beautiful in recognizing that your life has been shadowed by social expectations based on your gender, skin-tone, physical or mental abilities, religion, ethnicity, and/or sexual preferences. There's no magic in finally understanding as an adult that your parents were (and are) abusive, irreparably hurting your life to such an extent that even after 40 years on the planet, you are still being "punished"--one way or another. Once you get over the anger and sadness of any or all of these social betrayals--which can take years--you can then move forward. But every time you suffer any kind of abuse thereafter--take any further social hits--you will have a set-back. This push-pull cycle will continue until you can finally gain fiscal (and therefore physical) independence.
I think the best message I can deliver to my readers today is that, no matter where you are in your journey, you can get through whatever difficulties are before you. It will be frustrating, painful, sad, and very, very hard. But, you are worth every effort. The people who hurt you don't deserve to win...you do. Yet, if you allow anger, sadness and grief to overwhelm you, those unworthy individuals do win. And will continue to win. Because, you stopped trying.
I've been there. I'm still there in some ways--vacillating between the power I have proven is inside me (many times over now) and the realities of my life--which constantly sabotage any progress I've made in the past, as well as calling dibs on the promise of future progress. People will tell you money doesn't matter, and, it doesn't. Currency is man-made. Like greed. Yet, money is still necessary for independence. Freedom. That's what I want each and every one of my readers to focus on: What you need to have independence from the people who are "helping" you to stay poor, stay sick, stay reliant, stay dependent. Those people will say they "love" you, but the only thing they love is control. You empower them every day that you remain dependent. And, every day that you rely on others is a day that increases your fear, your anxiety, your depression. Whenever I hear about a couple where one partner is thriving and the other is just surviving, it's quite clear that the thriving partner is an abuser.
Abuse is not just being hit or kicked, pushed or punched. If you're being kept financially dependent, that's abuse, too.
Domestic violence doesn't happen because women (and sometimes men) are stupid or weak--it happens because the abusive partner is abusive across the board--keeping the vulnerable party even more vulnerable by requiring their financial-dependence. It may be hard to imagine how this could happen, but it's all-too easy to achieve in a world where women make less than 78-cents to every dollar a man earns, and are given far fewer jobs, promotions, and raises, according to the World Economic Forum. It's also much more common for women to be given more responsibilities on the job while being paid less--a job title is great, but it must be matched with financial gain or the woman is simply using more of her time and energy to make someone else wealthier while depleting her own limited resources. It's a vicious cycle. One that cannot be stopped outside of creating a sufficient income for independent living by the vulnerable party--not an easy task, even in the 21st century.
The reality of the inequities of this world tend to have more gravity between mid-October and late-February (through early-April) in the Northern Hemisphere...why? Because there is less light. No, I'm not kidding. Psychologists report having greater influxes of patients during this time period. More people are inclined to feel hopeless, helpless, sad, and stuck. More people contemplate suicide, attempt suicide and complete suicide at this time of year, too. Cancer diagnoses and auto-immune diagnoses increase during that same stretch as well. The shortening of daylight is particularly hard on adult survivors of childhood abuse and trauma, soldiers and veterans, those who have depression, those who have anxiety, and anyone with a mental health issue, as well as anyone who works with people that have mental health issues.
Expect increased darkness through the end of December, at which point, each day will get a little lighter until the western world "springs forward" months later. If you are aware of how your bio-chemistry is affected by decreased light and increased cold/darkness, you can better prepare. Start going to the gym every day. Meditate daily. Eat clean. Avoid processed sugars, fats and carbohydrates. Stick to whole foods--meaning, keep the food you purchase in packages to less than 20% of your overall groceries. Drink 3 liters of filtered water a day. Listen to uplifting music. And, most important of all, MOVE YOUR BODY. The more you physically move, the better you feel mentally. Avoid negative talk of any kind. If you live with a negative person, do the best you can to tune them out. Avoid conflict. Don't let yourself be baited into participating in negativity by reacting.
When you are reactive, you are not in control. When you focus on negatives, you are also not in control. And, when you lose control, you lose focus. Stay focused on improving yourself and your situation. Any distraction will only put you further behind, perpetuating the bad situation you're in, and the length of time you must continue to endure it.
Being proactive means moving your body, eating well, staying hydrated, meditating (including, but not limited to, prayer), and, listening to happy music and happy people. It sounds simple, but you will receive resistance. And, resistance always complicates things. Be ruthless in your pursuit of the positive. For many of you, that means deciding on a purpose that feeds your soul and your wallet. Use the "dark" months ahead to formulate a game plan and fortify your creative reserves so you can launch yourself into moving toward financial independence as the darkness diminishes, making room for a season of light. That's your moment. I'll keep you thinking about positive, proactive movement in the interim. But it's still up to you to make positive choices every day, throughout the day, until we get to spring--a period of rebirth, renewal, and hope.
Remember, your very life is a miracle. YOU are a miracle. And, I believe wholeheartedly in miracles, but you must BELIEVE, too.