Last night, this amazing dream came to me. I was living in my new apartment in Boston--the view of the Charles from the living room is the best thing I've ever seen, outside of the misty shores of Ireland. In the dream, family in New York had called and it left me feeling a bit sad. So, I texted a friend--the same friend who makes me smile like a movie star. One hang-out, house party and intimate dinner later, the glow was undeniable. The best part? The smile kept going even after the dream ended.
Whilst working away on morning chores, I realized with an "OMG!" that today was also my friend's birthday--the very same friend who makes me smile like I'm on the red carpet, even in the midst of a pandemic. The last time we sat down for a chat was October 2019; he lives in Ireland and I'd flown over for a book launch last fall. Though I was scheduled to be in Ireland for work again in 2020, the current crisis means no one is going anywhere. So the fact that my brain prompted a friend living all the way in Ireland to star in my recent dream was...surprising.
Dreams are messages from our unconscious that reflect subconscious desires.
I suppose that means mine was telling me I miss mo chara (my friend in Gaeilge). And, I do. But my conscious mind was still a tad shocked upon waking.
My tattooed (and rather charming) Irishman helped me with a kind of mind-makeover in 2018. The moment he said, "Why put up with disrespect from anyone--you're worth 1,000-times more than that," I listened. At least, for a little while.
Because of the confidence-boost mo chara provided, I made major changes that improved my life exponentially. In fact, I'm still grooving on that awesome Aries-energy he let me borrow for a brief
Heartbreak has a way of making us forget our worth. I think that's why the dream summoned my friend from across the ocean, magically transporting him 3,000+ miles despite the international travel ban. When I was sad and unsure a few years ago, he helped me remember that I had every reason to believe my future was bright. Even those of us who are motivators need a cheerleader once in a while....
Today, life is changing so quickly around us a la COVID-19, that more typical shifts (like the loss of a job or a romantic relationship) have to be shelved, deprioritized by fear of the unknown...and, grocery shopping???
Who knew we'd all be scripted into a real-life variation of a Robert Kirkman novel in 2020. Meanwhile, as my beloved chairde in Ireland would say, it is what it is. And, as we consider the *ahem* brave new world ahead of us, social betrayal and other trauma(s) may be pushed aside in light of simply surviving. However, we still need to deal with our emotions surrounding difficulty and disappointment or we'll never really move on from it.
My Irish friend would not approve of how I allowed myself to be treated by one particular individual this past year. No, he certainly would not. But when bad/sad things happened throughout the year, mo chara was who my mind called up to bolster my heart and courage. I suppose it's fair to say, then, that he's my hero. And, I took that for granted.
Dreams and their interpretation are a big part of the study of psychology. Mine was prompting me to rethink a number of things in my life. Though clearly, the view from my apartment is not one of them....
Introspection can render truly unexpected results. Raising our self-awareness helps us deal with the big and little changes life throws our way. So does a good friend.
Sometimes we can't fully recognize the importance of a given individual in our lives--we're simply not emotionally available to do so. When that's the case, it's a red flag that the people we're already connected to are asking more of us than they do of themselves. That's unhealthy and needs to change if we want to meet our full potential.
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Hope to hear from you soon! Until then...dream happy dreams full of good times and great friends.
PS: The video below features Irish musician, Niall Horan, who was recently included in a 2-hour special for #FlirtFM Galway, hosted by my friend and colleague, Chris Sherlock: