You think you know yourself pretty well after about four decades. You think every nook and cranny of your being has been explored, exposed and examined. But until you begin #AwakeLife, you have absolutely no idea who you really are, or, what you're capable of--regardless of things like age.
Coelho's protagonist, Santiago, believes he needs certain things to have a good life. He thinks, if he goes on this great journey and finds what he's looking for, then his life will be set. But it turns out that, in the end, Santiago had everything he needed all along. Besides the infamous quote from the book about how, when you want something with all your heart, the Universe conspires to make it happen, there is another that I particularly love and find particularly relevant in this particular moment:
"Remember that, wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure."
Most of us just assume we know our hearts. But until you're fully awake, you likely don't have a clue. Once you can admit the truth to yourself, however, you will not only know your heart better, you will also find the answer to what it is you've been looking for on your journey through life. Your "treasure," if you will.
If the thing you cherish is money or fame, I wish you luck. Those things are artificial and so, meaningless. You'll never find satisfaction because you will always crave more of what will forever be as fleeting as time itself.
If the thing you cherish is family, I also wish you luck. Having a loving family is wonderful, but children grow up. They will live their own lives, and parents, aunts, uncles will fade into the backdrop. It's supposed to be that way. Children are meant to become independent. When you raise your children to be strong, that is the ultimate result. So, as amazing as your children are, they are not your heart's desire. Nor should they be.
If the thing you cherish is experience, you will also find that, at some point, it falls short. Experience is an integral part of human existence. And it happens through appreciation of things like art and nature. Though it costs nothing to walk out your front door and look at the sky, to truly experience new things, one must travel. Travel costs money. If you forego all else to work in order to travel, you will wake up one day very lonely. By the same token, if you only work and never travel, life loses a little of its luster.
If the things you cherish have to be bought, then you have been misled into thinking that money can buy happiness. Money is definitely necessary for a good quality of life. We all need it. But it's not enough. And, it never will be.
No, the one thing every human heart truly desires is real love. With it comes acceptance of who you are. You can have a gut, lose your hair, get wrinkles in places you didn't know could possibly wrinkle, but real love will always see you as beautiful. Young. Athletic. That's why real love will never reject you. Real love will hold you when you're sick. It will draw you closer, not push you away, when you cry. Real love does not ignore your pain. Or, cause it. Real love is honest. It tells the truth, even if that truth is ugly. It puts aside things like pride and ego in order to acknowledge love more fully. That's what makes it such a miracle.
Real love is timeless, ageless, and liberating. It increases freedom. Expands your world. Makes you unlimited. It's worth the effort. Because, in the end, the only thing that will matter to you when you are drawing your last breath is that you had real love. Not the kind of love that grows after you settle for what you think you wanted. Or, were forced by circumstances to embrace. I'm not talking about silver-linings kind of love. I'm talking about the real thing. The kind of love that lasts a literal lifetime. There is nothing more perfect in this world.
My wish for everyone reading this right now, no matter who you are, is that you find real love. Your true treasure. The thing that makes your heart and soul sing in unison. The one thing that will never fade or die, no matter how much time passes, or how long you are apart.
I believe the world is sick because so many of us deny that love. Why deny what we truly want? Because, it's damn scary. Frankly, it's much easier to deny the real deal and live with people you don't feel that intensely about. Whatever they do, or don't do, is pretty much irrelevant. You can never really get hurt that way.
You may at first try to make silver-lining love fit into what you dreamt real love would be like, but if it isn't real, it will fade anyway. No matter how many band-aids you apply. You can spend every day together, but it won't matter. If you had a good partnership, you'll be friends. But you may no longer be true lovers. Only as much as you feel obligated to do so. Not because you can't stop thinking about every inch of your beloved's skin, or the way their lips felt on yours when you kissed...or, the way their eyes seemed to light up in a smile when they looked at you. The touch of their hand running down your stomach. The feel of their hair on your inner thigh. The sound of their voice. And the way you sighed in relief when their arms enveloped you, pulling you into their chest.
You can spend a lifetime apart, but you will never forget those things. You will try. Especially if life gets in the way. But one day, you will wake up. And everything you pushed down inside you, drugged, and otherwise tried to drown, will surface. When that happens, like Coelho's Santiago, you will have come full circle. It is my prayer for each of you that real love is returned to you in full. And, that a conspiring Universe protects you on what can be a rather treacherous journey.
When you finally find your heart's desire, I imagine it feels a lot like #Christmas morning. You wake up with a sense of wonder and joy. You can't wait to see what the day brings. You feel energized, excited. You smile more easily. You want to do kind things for others. You treat yourself with respect by living your best life possible. Every day. You feel grateful for your life. And so, are eager to give of yourself to better the life of the person you truly love. And the best part? They want to do the very same thing for you.
Real love makes everyday feel like a holiday...just got a knock to that. Guess my #ghosts agree.
#TwinFlame #1111 Post-script: We may have many soul mates (soul contracts) throughout our lifetimes, including siblings, pets, parents, friends, children, and spouses, but we only have one #TwinFlame--a person we came here with and planned to meet in order to experience unconditional love. Please find that person. No matter where you are in your life. Don't stop until you find each other. Be brave! You were made for this. And, once you do find one another, never ever let go.